Going to fast

Hi guys

When it comes to the subject of relationships, people assume that its easy, and wont be any trouble.
As we know before a relationship comes the "talking stage" this is the stage that shows if they are really just a pretty face or have an amazing personality.

When talking to someone online rather then in real life, it can sometimes be hard to get to know a person. I have started a "online" relationship many times and can clearly say that they aren't at all like relationships that start meeting the person face to face. When starting to talk to someone online, things can either end up really slow or way to fast. you should know that you should always be in control of the pace of you're relationships even if they are only at the talking stage.

Now I'm not saying you can't be a little flirty or express yourself to much, because thats what makes you, you. You shoundnt assume that just because they are talking to, doesn't mean they want a relationship. If someone is maybe being too flirty too soon for example are expressing their love after a week, then maybe you should tell them to tone it down. Remember to always be in control of how fast someone is going, make sure you both feel comfortable. If he's not willing to go at you're pace, then he doesn't care about making you feel comfortable, therefor would not be good as the next prince charming.

Its always better to know that you are in control and aren't just putting up with it to meet his standards.

love clo xx

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The changes we make

Hi guys, today I'm going to be covering a subject that is very important to me, and think would benefit a lot of you guys.

The change from primary school to secondary school is a big thing, and effects people in many different ways. Sometimes for better sometimes for worse. I know i sound like such an old person when i say it, but technology has really effected people in bad ways.

When i was in Primary school i was picked on very badly, because of my looks, and my hair and just about anything that wasn't the same as anyone else. The bullying got so bad that i ended up changing schools. I feel like when you are in primary school you're only worry is how you will get money for sweets, or how to convince you're mum to let you have a sleepover. But now kids are more influenced by younger web stars. People on musically are creating music videos showing inappropriate movements, and they are about 7. The skirts have gotten shorter, the makeup has become more cakie and most importantly, peoples views have changed.

When i got to secondary school i had my blazer done up, skirt to my ankles and a tight pony tail. I was told that this was ugly, not what girls should dress like. I was told that if i didn't look a certain way, boys wouldn't date me, and people wouldn't like me. Did i believe it, yes sadly i did. My confidence went from 100 to 20 and that really effected my self esteem. I started spending every penny i got on makeup (not the right colours or shades, i looked like a orange) and straightened my hair everyday without fail causing it to be the most damaged its ever been today, and my skirt was pulled up so high. Even then i was told i wasn't good enough.

When you get to GCSEs a sense of relief is brought about. When you join college it feels more like people aren't bothered by appearance and want to get to know you as a person. You don't care about the looks because people are dressed in bright colours and have there own fashion. And they rock it.

Just remember that you shouldn't loose the spark that makes you, you. I remember when it was my first non uniform day, and i wore a bright dress and pony tails. A group of girls kept following me and throwing things, saying i was to ugly. It did break me down but guess what, i got back up. Don't do what i did, listen to you're heart and go by what you want. Don't follow other peoples standards, go by you're own.

If you have a story to share or any advice feel free to comment below

love clo xxx

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The relationship game

Hi guys, most of the people reading, are just about the age where you begin to get into relationships. (if not don't worry relationships aren't the meaning of life enjoy the freedom)

if you are in the stage where you are talking to a guy, try and think about these things before jumping into the relationship pool.

1. Do you really like the guy. Now you may be like YES WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT HE LIKES ME THATS ALL I NEED, but that is not the way you should view relationships. Just because someone likes you doesn't mean you have to like them back. Even if you are desperate for a relationship, don't settle for someone you wouldn't be happy with. Attraction is an important factor in a relationship. Value yourself.

2. Are you really ready? As i have mentioned on a previous blog post, although in you're mind you feel like the most ready person in the world, think deep if you really want it. You can just be friends with someone, sometimes its better that way ( and you have a boy on the inside for when you need dirt on another guy you like)Never pressure yourself into anything you truly don't want to do, make sure you value yourself just as much as you value them.

3. Are you doing it for the right reasons. A relationship should be between two people that truly value each other, not just want to be around someone because they can say they have a girlfriend. if you find that you are in a friendship group, and the only one thats single, don't freak out about it. It isn't a big of a deal as you think it is. You can be the hard headed one helping them with breakups, and just because you haven't been in a relationship, doesn't mean you can't give good advice to support you're friends relationships.

Now if you are at this stage and you have ticked all the boxes for a great relationship, go for it. Its 2016 not the dark ages where girls have to wait for guys to make the first move. If you like him, start a conversation, ask him on a date, whats the worst thing that could happen? He says no, life goes on.

Good luck girls

Love clo xxxxxx

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Starting College

Hey guys, sorry for not posting lately, but it has been a very stressful month.

As most people know, School started again in september, which meant i started college. When the time came, it suddenly hit me like a truck, i had no friends, no clue where i was going and just everything is different.

Anyone starting a new school will know that the worst thoughts run through you're mind the night before,

AM I GOING TO BE ALONE,?!?!?
WILL I GET LOST?!

And thats not to be ashamed of. I even found myself typing into google " how to survive college without friends" Now one thing that i learnt is not to wait for friends to come to you.

When i walked into college i sat at the back of the class and kind of kept myself to myself. Until about half way through the day when we was put in groups and i met someone called Dan. I talked to him and we have became quite good friends, then it led me to meeting various other friends (maybe even a love interest *wink *wink) It have been at college for little over a week and have already met so many people. So if you are thinking of going to college but you are worried about friends, just go for it. Trust me you will be glad you did. Plus you can never have too many friends.

Another thing people think is that if they make new friends, they will be betraying their old ones. You don't have to go to the same school to still be friends, i oovoo my old friends constantly.

Good luck to everyone just starting school, if anyone wants to share any tips or experiences don't be afraid to comment or Dm me any topics you want me to cover.

love clo xxxxx

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