Feeling 'ugly'

Hello, lovelies

I guarantee that everyone of us has felt 'ugly' at one point. I know i have on more then one occasion. Firstly i want you to know that nobody is ugly. Now hear me out on that. Just think to yourself what is true beauty?

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2017-things to leave behind

Hey guys 

I hope you are having an amazing new year and had a great Christmas. I want to talk to you guys about things you should be bringing into 2017 and things you should be leaving behind. 

On New Year's Eve I wrote a list of things I want to change about myself, and I began thinking about things that I didn't want to be with me next year. a main thing would be boys. In the year I found myself talking to a lot of guys that didn't make me happy. But the thing is they told me that I was pretty and beautiful and I'm not ashamed to admit that I love the attention. But I'm so scared of upsetting them. So I made the big step of blocking them all on snapchat and explaining that I can't talk to them anymore. This felt like a massive weight lifted off my chest. I shouldn't be keeping people in my life and I shouldn't be wasting there time. I'm ready to talk to people that I have an interest in and I want to have a relationship with. Don't hold onto people that need letting go. As i have mentioned before, i used to just talk to any guy that would talk to me, my type or not. Well this year is going to be different. You dont go looking for love, love should be looking for you. I have decided to stop looking, and when its my time, its my time.

love clo xx

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When to go on a date

Hey guys,

Somebody told me yesterday about a problem they where facing. They told me that they are talking to a boy and have been talking for a about a month. He brought up going on a date and she is unclear on her feelings, and asked if i could discuss it in a blog post. 

I myself have had a few experiences like this and am happy to give some advice. As i have explained before i get very self destructive when i find that people like me and i have the tendency to try and put them off to stay in control of the situation. So when people tend to ask me on dates, i usually tend to back out at the last minute and feel awful after. 

I say that if the situation feels right. Go for it. But make sure you have talked a lot in person first. So it isn't awkward, that is the worst possible scenario because you feel like you can't be yourself. If you know that you can connect with that person on a personal level, you shouldn't have to much trouble making conversation.

and girls remember it is 2016, you can ask the guy on the date. If its getting to the 4th month of just chatting then dont be afraid to put your foot in the door and ask to meet up. This doesn't mean that you become the masculine for it, But as my date said to me, it makes you seem more confident and you know what you want from life, which is very attractive to most guys.

Also if the date is that bad you can always "loose" his number

love clo xxx

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Self Sabotage

Hi guys

I have a problem that many girls face and don't often talk about. Whenever someone seems interested in me, i seem to find ways to put them off so I'm in charge of the situation. This is a problem many girls face, they don't seem to let other people look after them and often want to feel in control. This means that i turn away a lot of people because i am scared of giving my trust to other people and not feeling in control of things.

Now you may feel like its a bad thing but it does have its benefits. You always know what you want from something and can often read people better, to make sure they live to your standards. But it does also have its disadvantages. When you feel people getting close to you, you seem to push them away, and don't want them to have a relationship with you because you feel like the worst will happen. Now i know some people won't be able to relate to this and will think I'm crazy and ever sensitive but that isn't the case,

Here are the three things that i do to make sure i can keep my self sabotage to a lower level

1. Make sure if you know someone likes you, you don't automatically push them away because you are scared. If you push away to much he will just assume you are uninterested 

     2. make sure you go at a pace that you are comfortable with. Things may go fast and you do have          a right to say stop and set boundaries 

      3. Dont be affraid to tell someone who is dating you of your problem. The sooner they understand the more comfortable they will make the relationship 

i hope this helped at least one of you. If you want to share feel free to comment below and leave a topic for the next blog!! 

love clo xx

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Going to fast

Hi guys

When it comes to the subject of relationships, people assume that its easy, and wont be any trouble.
As we know before a relationship comes the "talking stage" this is the stage that shows if they are really just a pretty face or have an amazing personality.

When talking to someone online rather then in real life, it can sometimes be hard to get to know a person. I have started a "online" relationship many times and can clearly say that they aren't at all like relationships that start meeting the person face to face. When starting to talk to someone online, things can either end up really slow or way to fast. you should know that you should always be in control of the pace of you're relationships even if they are only at the talking stage.

Now I'm not saying you can't be a little flirty or express yourself to much, because thats what makes you, you. You shoundnt assume that just because they are talking to, doesn't mean they want a relationship. If someone is maybe being too flirty too soon for example are expressing their love after a week, then maybe you should tell them to tone it down. Remember to always be in control of how fast someone is going, make sure you both feel comfortable. If he's not willing to go at you're pace, then he doesn't care about making you feel comfortable, therefor would not be good as the next prince charming.

Its always better to know that you are in control and aren't just putting up with it to meet his standards.

love clo xx

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The changes we make

Hi guys, today I'm going to be covering a subject that is very important to me, and think would benefit a lot of you guys.

The change from primary school to secondary school is a big thing, and effects people in many different ways. Sometimes for better sometimes for worse. I know i sound like such an old person when i say it, but technology has really effected people in bad ways.

When i was in Primary school i was picked on very badly, because of my looks, and my hair and just about anything that wasn't the same as anyone else. The bullying got so bad that i ended up changing schools. I feel like when you are in primary school you're only worry is how you will get money for sweets, or how to convince you're mum to let you have a sleepover. But now kids are more influenced by younger web stars. People on musically are creating music videos showing inappropriate movements, and they are about 7. The skirts have gotten shorter, the makeup has become more cakie and most importantly, peoples views have changed.

When i got to secondary school i had my blazer done up, skirt to my ankles and a tight pony tail. I was told that this was ugly, not what girls should dress like. I was told that if i didn't look a certain way, boys wouldn't date me, and people wouldn't like me. Did i believe it, yes sadly i did. My confidence went from 100 to 20 and that really effected my self esteem. I started spending every penny i got on makeup (not the right colours or shades, i looked like a orange) and straightened my hair everyday without fail causing it to be the most damaged its ever been today, and my skirt was pulled up so high. Even then i was told i wasn't good enough.

When you get to GCSEs a sense of relief is brought about. When you join college it feels more like people aren't bothered by appearance and want to get to know you as a person. You don't care about the looks because people are dressed in bright colours and have there own fashion. And they rock it.

Just remember that you shouldn't loose the spark that makes you, you. I remember when it was my first non uniform day, and i wore a bright dress and pony tails. A group of girls kept following me and throwing things, saying i was to ugly. It did break me down but guess what, i got back up. Don't do what i did, listen to you're heart and go by what you want. Don't follow other peoples standards, go by you're own.

If you have a story to share or any advice feel free to comment below

love clo xxx

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The relationship game

Hi guys, most of the people reading, are just about the age where you begin to get into relationships. (if not don't worry relationships aren't the meaning of life enjoy the freedom)

if you are in the stage where you are talking to a guy, try and think about these things before jumping into the relationship pool.

1. Do you really like the guy. Now you may be like YES WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT HE LIKES ME THATS ALL I NEED, but that is not the way you should view relationships. Just because someone likes you doesn't mean you have to like them back. Even if you are desperate for a relationship, don't settle for someone you wouldn't be happy with. Attraction is an important factor in a relationship. Value yourself.

2. Are you really ready? As i have mentioned on a previous blog post, although in you're mind you feel like the most ready person in the world, think deep if you really want it. You can just be friends with someone, sometimes its better that way ( and you have a boy on the inside for when you need dirt on another guy you like)Never pressure yourself into anything you truly don't want to do, make sure you value yourself just as much as you value them.

3. Are you doing it for the right reasons. A relationship should be between two people that truly value each other, not just want to be around someone because they can say they have a girlfriend. if you find that you are in a friendship group, and the only one thats single, don't freak out about it. It isn't a big of a deal as you think it is. You can be the hard headed one helping them with breakups, and just because you haven't been in a relationship, doesn't mean you can't give good advice to support you're friends relationships.

Now if you are at this stage and you have ticked all the boxes for a great relationship, go for it. Its 2016 not the dark ages where girls have to wait for guys to make the first move. If you like him, start a conversation, ask him on a date, whats the worst thing that could happen? He says no, life goes on.

Good luck girls

Love clo xxxxxx

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