When to go on a date

Hey guys,

Somebody told me yesterday about a problem they where facing. They told me that they are talking to a boy and have been talking for a about a month. He brought up going on a date and she is unclear on her feelings, and asked if i could discuss it in a blog post. 

I myself have had a few experiences like this and am happy to give some advice. As i have explained before i get very self destructive when i find that people like me and i have the tendency to try and put them off to stay in control of the situation. So when people tend to ask me on dates, i usually tend to back out at the last minute and feel awful after. 

I say that if the situation feels right. Go for it. But make sure you have talked a lot in person first. So it isn't awkward, that is the worst possible scenario because you feel like you can't be yourself. If you know that you can connect with that person on a personal level, you shouldn't have to much trouble making conversation.

and girls remember it is 2016, you can ask the guy on the date. If its getting to the 4th month of just chatting then dont be afraid to put your foot in the door and ask to meet up. This doesn't mean that you become the masculine for it, But as my date said to me, it makes you seem more confident and you know what you want from life, which is very attractive to most guys.

Also if the date is that bad you can always "loose" his number

love clo xxx

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Self Sabotage

Hi guys

I have a problem that many girls face and don't often talk about. Whenever someone seems interested in me, i seem to find ways to put them off so I'm in charge of the situation. This is a problem many girls face, they don't seem to let other people look after them and often want to feel in control. This means that i turn away a lot of people because i am scared of giving my trust to other people and not feeling in control of things.

Now you may feel like its a bad thing but it does have its benefits. You always know what you want from something and can often read people better, to make sure they live to your standards. But it does also have its disadvantages. When you feel people getting close to you, you seem to push them away, and don't want them to have a relationship with you because you feel like the worst will happen. Now i know some people won't be able to relate to this and will think I'm crazy and ever sensitive but that isn't the case,

Here are the three things that i do to make sure i can keep my self sabotage to a lower level

1. Make sure if you know someone likes you, you don't automatically push them away because you are scared. If you push away to much he will just assume you are uninterested 

     2. make sure you go at a pace that you are comfortable with. Things may go fast and you do have          a right to say stop and set boundaries 

      3. Dont be affraid to tell someone who is dating you of your problem. The sooner they understand the more comfortable they will make the relationship 

i hope this helped at least one of you. If you want to share feel free to comment below and leave a topic for the next blog!! 

love clo xx

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